Why it's Okay to Ask for Help

Going out and asking for help is a good thing; don’t let others tell you otherwise. When I started my business, I tried to do everything by myself because I didn’t think I needed help (most entrepreneurs try and do everything themselves). Well, I made a big mistake because I could have used some help and saved myself a lot of time. I’m sure you can use some help in some parts of your business yourself.

One of the best things that come from asking someone for help is that, most likely, they have “been there and done that.” They were once in your shoes so they know what works and what doesn’t. Most people will be more than happy to help you, the only problem is, are you giving them the chance to do so? You can’t expect someone to help you if you don’t ask for it first.

With the internet and the proliferation of technology nowadays, it has become easier than ever to obtain help and knowledge from others. Within a few clicks of your mouse, you can be chatting to someone across the world. That’s pretty amazing stuff if you ask me. Now, there’s lots of ways to obtain help, but that’s not the topic of this article. Where to get help is not the question, it is “Is it okay to ask for help?”

Let me explain why it’s perfectly okay to reach out to others when you need help. First, here are some assumptions you may have about asking for help from other people.

Assumption 1: Asking for help is a sign of weakness.
This is the one thing most people think about when asking for help. Actually, it’s far from the truth! Asking for help is not a sign of weakness, it is actually not asking for help that’s the sign of weakness. Giving and receiving help from others is one way for you to grow as a human being. It is hard to do, especially when the things that you need help with are not very easy.

—Look at all the things that people around the world ask for help with: weight loss, relationship problems, education, and about a million other things.

The people who take action and seek help are the strong and brave ones!

Assumption 2: You will lose control if you ask for help.
Everyone at some point in their life thinks that if they seek help, their situation will get out of control. To be honest, it may happen sometimes; some of my biggest wins in life actually occurred when I asked others for help, even when it got out of control. The secret is to use your creativity when things do get out of control.

The fact is that if you never lose control in your business you will never truly experience those big wins because you don’t know what it’s like to lose. To really become successful in what you do, you will have to experience failure. Look at it as an opportunity to do better next time, and you will have won already.

Assumption 3: Help is overrated and too costly.
The right kind of help is priceless in my mind. Without the people I have in my team, I couldn’t do the things I currently do. Help is what makes the world go round, from the simple things like the products and services I use and consume every day, to actually approaching someone and asking them for assistance.

You need to understand that asking for help isn’t just you going out and asking people to help you. Getting help can be in the form of the tools and products you use to make your life easier. If you think about it, no business actually can work without the right tools. Think of asking for help—whether from a person or a tool—as an asset that you’re adding to your business.

Assumption 4: I am only burdening those whom I ask for help.
I have come to learn that asking for help gives me the opportunity to later help those who have given me help. Asking and giving are the two things that work in harmony together and some people love to give help more than receive it. I am one of those who love helping others. You will come across people like me who want to give more than receive, and it will help them a lot if you accept their help.

It sounds crazy, but it’s the truth! Why? Well, as human beings, we love to feel needed.

When they are asked for help, it makes them feel like they have a purpose. More times than not, the person helping feels better about giving help than the person receiving help. Helping others is why I wake up in the morning; it truly makes my day to see others being able to pursue their dreams because of the help I have given them.

Assumption 5: I do just fine by myself, and I don’t need help.
Everyone, no matter who they might be, needs help at one time or another. Chances are, if you’re in my type of industry, you need more help than most, especially with the technical side of business. I had gone too long in my business trying to do everything myself before I finally realized that it’s okay to ask for help.

From being someone who does everything themselves to getting others to be on my team is like night and day. When you get others to help you in life and with your business, it will transform everything, from doing just fine to doing AMAZING!

Assumption 6: I am the only one who can do it right.
Sometimes we think that things will only get done right when we do them ourselves; trust me, I know! However, if you never take the leap of asking people for help, then you will never come to see the relief that it can bring to you in your life.

Doing things yourself to get them done the right way is just fine, but once that load gets too big for you to handle, you should seek help before the work or your personal life suffers. Even a simple thing like hiring a general virtual assistant who can take on some of your workload will be a big help. You can also go the route of asking a leader in your industry how they do so well with their workload and apply their finding to your own life.

Assumption 7: If I ask for help then I have to return the favor someday.
You may think that when you ask for help from someone, that person will then expect you to help them next time. What if you don’t want to or can’t return the favor? Well, you need not worry. Like I mentioned before, some people love to help others more than receive help themselves. Giving out help and knowledge for me is for more rewarding than to get help from others.

When I help someone it really does give me a sense of purpose. Don’t ever think that by asking for help you have to return the favor someday. It doesn’t work that way. Don’t be scared as well of not knowing how to return the favor to someone who has helped you.

I think the reason why it gives me and others so much joy to help others is because we’ve been in the spot before where we have to ask others for help. It’s almost like helping a younger version of ourselves. When you see it that way, who wouldn’t want to help? I surely would and I am sure you would as well.

Assumption 8: My business isn’t big enough for me to take on help.
There will come a time in your business when you need to either ask for help or hire help. If you never cross that threshold, then it’s only because you never noticed there was one. I can tell you there’s ways in which you need help. I myself could name a million things I need help with. I am not saying I am unorganized; what I am saying is that I will always need help regardless of how successful I become.

To give you a real example, I am always learning and growing my skills. I can’t learn new skills and knowledge without the help of others. You might be in a place within your business where you don’t have the funds to hire a virtual assistant, but nonetheless, you can still go out and seek help regardless if you have the money or not. All help isn’t based on money.

Asking for help from others doesn’t cost money in most cases, it only costs time and effort on your part. You can’t expect someone with the answers to come knocking at your door if you don’t put your question out in the world. There’s a place where you can get help with anything you need; you just have to find it.

Things to Keep in mind when Asking others for Help.

Now that we’ve discussed the assumptions anyone can have in this situation, here are a few things to keep in mind when asking others for help.

Be straightforward. Regardless of what medium you’re seeking help from, you need to always be straightforward because your time is just as valuable as others. Don’t waste time beating around the bush, get to the point and make your message clear when seeking help.

If it’s a few questions you need help with then post your questions on help forums or groups in social networks like Facebook and LinkedIn.

If you need a more hands-on kind of help, you need to go out and hire a freelancer to take some of the workload off your plate. Just make sure you set out your expectations well so you won’t waste both of your time. Be straightforward with what you need help with.

Be selective. Having the right kind of help is key to a successful life or undertaking. You should be selective about who you ask for help because this can have a negative effect if you choose the wrong people.

Say thanks. Whether you have a multi-billion dollar business or if you’re just starting your first blog post, always say thanks to those that have helped you.

Don’t fear rejection. You will encounter people rejecting you and not delivering the answers or help you need. Don’t see it negatively. All you can do is move forward and seek help elsewhere. If you received help and it wasn’t the answer you needed, give thanks and be thankful for their efforts.

Help makes you a stronger leader. Try and remember that every successful person throughout history had to ask for help from another person at one time or another. To truly be strong in life, you must ask others for help. Asking for and implementing help within your life will give you the ability to delegate tasks much faster. Being a true leader in business can’t be done on your own regardless of how smart you might be.

In Summary

Asking for help is a way to gain more knowledge and be a better leader in your industry. I still reach out to others for help and support with my business. You might be scared at first when asking complete strangers; I was when I first asked, but you will eventually learn to conquer that fear.

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The thing is that life itself is scary and going about things on your own is by far more scarier than getting rejected by a few people. You will get those one or two people who reject to help you, but don’t give up.

Some people who try to help you might not be the right person you need for what you need help with. All you can do is keep looking around until you find what you need. If you can’t seem to get help then you might be looking in the wrong place.

Thanks so much for taking the time to read this article. Don’t ever be scared to ask for help because it’s what makes the world go round.

Keep being awesome, and I will talk to you soon,
Scott