9 Life Lessons I have Learned Over the Years

Life is a series of lessons you must learn. Some are good experiences, while others are not so enjoyable.

Let me share with you some of the life lessons I have gone through over the years. Some of the personal truths I’m sharing with you below took me a long while to fully understand. Still, I have equal love for both learning and sharing my knowledge with the world. If I can somehow make your life easier with this article, then I believe I have done my job.

1. Follow your heart.

I see a lot of people try to become entrepreneurs because they think being one is cool and hip. If you’re one of them, let me set you straight. Being your own boss is not easy. You have to have the drive and the passion to start and continue what you are doing. If your only motivation is the idea of living like someone else because you think it’s cool, then you’re going about life all wrong. Don’t try to become someone else for the sake of a social image you would like to adopt and project because when you do start walking in those shoes and find they don’t fit right, you might not like yourself.

You, like everyone else, have been conditioned to do things you’re not fully interested in. You have been told to get jobs you don’t like, to go to school for stuff you don’t care about, and to wake up when you don’t want to. The list goes on and on, but what is the point of life if you’re not doing what your heart is telling you to do. In my mind, there is no point if you live life like that.

Don’t set yourself up to be unhappy in the end. If you want to become a race car driver, then go for it. No one is going to stop you but yourself. If the people around you constantly bring you down, discouraging you from what you sincerely want to do and experience, then it’s time to find some new friends.

Follow your heart, and you will soon find your life where you really want it to be.

2. Know your self-worth and stop comparing yourself with others.

Human beings have a tendency to measure themselves against each other. We look at someone else’s life and think to ourselves, “I wish I were them.” “I want their life.” “How I wish I could wake up with that lifestyle.” On the other hand, we might judge others negatively and see our lives to be better than theirs. Some make us envy them, and others make us feel superior to them.

The fact of the matter is that comparing yourself to other people, whether it results in envy or a sense of superiority, will never make you happy in the end. Comparing yourself, for example, with someone who makes 100 times the amount you earn each month will just lead you toward depression. Here’s a metaphor: Imagine if you had to climb a million steps to reach your goals and you see someone at the top of this heap of steps. You would think to yourself one of two things if you’re in the comparing mindset: “Why can’t I be there?” or “That person doesn’t deserve to be at the top; I do.” Entertaining ideas along these lines will cause you to be more critical of either yourself or the other person.

The point is that wishing you could be there can make you ultimately give up before you even start. On the other hand, choosing to be negative about someone’s success will only make you seem like an ass. Yes, I said it, an ass. What you need to start doing if you constantly compare yourself with others is to choose to be happy for them instead. Don’t go measuring others up against yourself and deciding that they don’t deserve to be at the top when you haven’t even started the climb yet.

They walked up those million steps and earned it (who are you to say they don’t deserve it?). If you’re envious of some people, take them out of the picture and focus on your own goals. Using the same metaphor, imagine yourself being at the top of the stairs and focus on the feeling of being there with each step of your climb.

(By the way, if you’re wondering how long it would take to reach the top of a million stairs, it’s a week or two if you’re a champion stair-climber or around 12 hours if you’re on a motorcycle going full throttle.)

3. Make being healthy a lifestyle.

You can’t turn back time, and you can never buy more time. Let’s say you got to where you want to be in your life, but you didn’t take the time and effort to stay healthy. Would you even have the strength to say it was all worth it?

Eating right and being active are things you should never put aside. Your health is all that really matters in your life. Without good health, all the money in the world is just a big pile of green paper that you could use to make a big bonfire on your way out.

I am not a health coach, and I often slip from the path of eating good and staying active. The best advice I can give you, which I have implemented in my life as well, is to make a plan that you can stick to. If you already eat terribly, I don’t think going full-on health fanatic is the right thing to do. Take it slow, and build up a long-lasting plan that can ultimately prolong your life on this earth.

4. Always strive to learn more, and question everything.

In this day and age, you will easily find many opportunities to learn and grow as a human being. Anything and everything you could ever want to learn are within reach. Always keep pushing yourself to be the best you can be because it will allow you to confidently set goals that are so big that they seem impossible to achieve. When you overcome them, you will know that nothing is impossible. Using the internet and other current developments in the world, you can learn skills that would have been non-existent 100 years ago. There are so much you can do with your life. Take on the task to learn more about many things to master the knowledge and skills in areas you are most interested in. Do this, and you will realize that you can become a master at anything you put your mind to.

When you experience problems or setbacks, never give up. Think of failure as a challenge. When two people play a game of chess, one loses, and one wins. Does that scare the players enough to discourage them from playing? No, not at all because it becomes a challenge for them. If you adopt this way of thinking and apply it to whatever you do, it will open doors you never thought existed. If you do fail, then look at it as knowing one way not to do something. Most successful people had failed countless times before they made it big. The only real failure in life happens when you no longer try.

5. Surround yourself with like-minded people.

If you want to achieve your dreams and goals in life, you need to make sure to surround yourself with the right people. By choosing the right kinds of people to spend time with, you can propel your dreams forward more quickly. If all you have for company are negative people, then you can go out and seek those who could have a positive impact on you. It’s not hard to interact with and befriend people who share your interests and values.

If you surround yourself with people who drain your energy and waste your time, you will have nothing but lost time and wasted money. If you surround yourself with truly inspiring individuals, it will feed your drive to make things happen. Also, if you actively seek out people you look up to, you will have their persona leak into your world and fuel your dreams.

People who make millions and who still want to make more choose to hang out with billionaires. Take some time today to think about whom you want to be in your life and how you can surround yourself with similar people you can emulate because this will play a huge part in getting you where you want to be faster. Soon, you could be the one everyone would look up to and follow. It’s important to get your surroundings as well as yourself into a positive state. So, surround yourself with positive, like-minded people, not the kind who are unnecessarily critical and jealous of everything you do.

6. Time can never be brought back.

Life is short, and time is something we can’t ever have more of no matter how rich or successful you may become. One-third of an average life is spent sleeping, and another big portion is spent working for someone else. If you value time, then you need to spend it doing the things that make you happy. People need money to survive, but you need to learn to manage your time wisely. Take the time you deserve and spend it on yourself. If it’s your work that takes up most of your time, then strive to find another career that will allow you to have a healthy work-life balance.

Every one of us will die, and no one will ever say on his or her deathbed, “I wish I had worked harder, I wish I had made more money, I wish I had a bigger house or a better car.” What they will probably say is, “I wish I had lived more doing the things I loved.” Time is something we all have in common; some of us seem to have more of it because we use it more wisely while others take it for granted.

Don’t let your time be taken from you by doing things you don’t really care to do. When your time is up, you won’t be wishing you had wasted it faster doing things you didn’t really want to do in the first place.

7. True success in life requires sacrifice.

Being an entrepreneur takes time, effort, and dedication. Nothing happens overnight; if you think you will be a millionaire overnight without much work, you’re wrong. You have to plan, work hard, and actually care about the work and the goals you’ve set for yourself. You will most likely have to sacrifice something in your life to achieve your dreams. Nothing comes easy—certainly not in making a living online. If some people tell you that you can make loads of money overnight, they don’t know what they’re talking about.

Don’t be fooled by wannabe scummy marketers out there. One thing I have learned when it comes to life is that everything comes at a cost. Some things only require a little bit of effort on your part, while others require years. True success is the result of your willingness to sacrifice and take out distractions from your everyday life. If all you do is party every night and you don’t want to stop, I don’t see you having much success. You need to give up those things in exchange for more productive activities that make better use of your time and energy.

8. There’ll always be the haters.

In life, you could give away everything you have—your money and your belongings—and there will still be people who say that you’re scamming people or that you’re stupid. On the other hand, you could keep everything to yourself and not share your ideas and knowledge with the world, and you will still get the same results: people hating on you. It doesn’t matter what your approach is in interacting with other people because there’s no sweet spot in which you can make everyone happy. Even if you found a sweet spot, there would be that one person who follows you and hates on everything you do.

For one reason or another, someone will find a reason to project their insecurities, their negativity, and their fears onto you and your life. The best thing you could do is to not even give the haters the time of day; they don’t deserve anything from you. Often, jealousy and low self-worth are the reasons why people hate on other people. In a sense, some people who feel bad about themselves tend to hate the people they envy the most. Keep in mind that the world, from one perspective, is a messed-up place and that people can be crazy sometimes.

9. Life doesn’t happen for you; you make it happen.

People who work 9-5 jobs often talk about the world they will have and the things that they dream about. If you believe that someday you will be successful, it will never happen for you. I know it’s hard to hear, but it’s the truth.

If you want to get healthy, then start doing things today that will lead you toward that goal. Not tomorrow. Not next Tuesday or next month. Start today. Leave no time for the future because today holds all the crucial time for change.

If it’s time you need to make changes happen, you may start with closing your Facebook account, canceling your texting plan, getting rid of your TV, and making the necessary adjustments to make big things happen for you. Life doesn’t give you a golden ticket to success. Life makes you earn your way, and there’s no one except yourself that has the power to earn your golden ticket and make the life you truly want happen.

Stay humble, and never stop working toward a better life for yourself. The future is yours, and no one else can take it from you but yourself.