The Price You Pay For Thinking Negatively
At some point we all have our negative days. Those times when we just feel drained, lost, and confused on what to do with our lives.
Stopping negative thoughts isn’t all that easy and it’s not something that’s taught all that much.
In this article I want to show you the price you pay when you think negatively and how to squash the negativity for good.
First, we need to understand what negative thinking is because it plays a huge part in switching our thinking to positive. When you think negatively, you might be telling yourself “I can’t because I’m not smart enough,” “I’m fat and ugly,” “I have no friends,” “my life has no purpose,” and the list goes on and on.
Research has shown that we think about anywhere from 12,000 to 60,000 thoughts per day. Other research has shown that as much as 98% of our thoughts are exactly the same as we had the day before. We’re all creatures of habit! The even more shocking part to that 98% of thoughts is that 80% of our thoughts are negative.
Sad, but true.
No wonder why some people can’t pull themselves up out of their negativity. It’s just that they’ve taught themselves the habit to keep thinking negatively. Habit is a very strong thing and when you do something for a long ass time, it because extremely hard to change.
You’ve heard it before and might have told yourself at times that it’s just because your luck is bad, your parents didn’t raise you right, or your job is to blame.
More negative thinking on top of more negative thinking.
Stopping negative thoughts after they start to snowball is a recipe for disaster.
Once you start to see the negativity in your life, you’ve got to stop it in its tracks. No one’s perfect and to try and chase perfection is impossible. Rather then trying to “be more” seek to “be better.”
Negativity Drains & Positivity Gains.
Negative thoughts are particularly draining regardless of the topic. Thoughts containing words like “never,” “should,” and “can’t” will diminish your energy, self-worth, and without any effort deplete your body and mind’s energy.
The fact is that when you think negatively it will create chemicals in your body that weaken the physiology.
You see it all the time — negative people are far more exhausted at the end of the day!
Positive thinking will lift you to new heights regardless of your circumstances. If you’re constantly in a negative state then you need to look at your surroundings. Who are the people you hang out with, what types of foods do you eat, do you watch TV all day? These are just some of the things that can bring negativity into your life.
A “Complaint-Free World” doesn’t exist, but you can pick and choose how you think and feel. You are in control of your life and the outcome of your future.
Our bodies are 70% water; when you start to think positive, you will see your skin start to become vibrant and almost glow.
Breaking the Habit of Negativity.
Change is the only constant in life and you must embrace change otherwise you will have a hard time when you’re forced to change.
It takes 21 days to break a habit and create a new one. 21 days isn’t all that much time and it’s not all that big of a commitment. I say that once you do something for 60-90 days you will almost perform that task without thinking.
Staying positive and building a better life with your thoughts is something that can change your life. As a matter of fact, it can take you from where you are to somewhere you dream to be. Positive thinking can give you the relationship you want and this is because you will attract to yourself the things you think most.
If you think 21 days of not thinking negative is hard, then you will most likely struggle with the task.
On the other hand, if you think “this is going to be easy” then it will most likely become very easy for you to make it a habit that follows you throughout your life. If you have children, then you need to teach them at a young age that the way in which they think will affect the world around them.
If they are always happy, people will notice them, compliment them, and give them more positivity.
Your life is what you make it and it all starts with what you think. Let’s break down how to overcome and squash a negative thought pattern.
Step 1: When you have a negative thought come into your mind, make it into a mental image.
For example, if you have the thought “I suck at cooking,” make a mental image that might look something like this:
The more funny the scene you come up with, the better. 😉
Step 2: Replace the thought with an empowering one.
Think about what you want instead of the negative one. If you want to cook better, think about serving excellent food to your friends and family.
Step 3: Turn the positive thought into a mental scene.
Play the positive scene out in your mind. In the example of serving excellent food to your friends and family, picture them eating your food and complimenting you. Play out the scene of them thanking you for cooking such amazing food.
Truly feel what it would feel like to serve them the excellent food you’ve cooked in your mind.
Step 4: Connect the two mental images/scenes together.
Take the images you’ve thought about in Step 1 and Step 3, and mentally link them together. This trick is used in memory techniques like chaining or pegging, which is extremely powerful.
So in the example of being a bad cook, the first scene could be everyone laughing at you because the kitchen is out of control and you’re having things catch fire; you then take off your clothes to put the fire out and this erupts into even more laughter. The second scene could be you busting open the wall to put on a chef’s uniform and then spinning really fast to have all the chaos come to a stop and everyone is amazed that there’s some good-looking food. After they see it, you start serving it and they LOVE it; they say your food is the best they’ve ever had.
The point I am trying to make is that you need to make the scene and mental images extremely exaggerated. The more “out of this world,” the better. Exaggeration makes it easier to remember the scene because our brains are designed to remember the unusual and out of this world.
Once you have the whole scene worked out in your head, you need to mentally rehearse it for speed. The speed is an important part to getting over negative thoughts. Replay the whole scene over and over until you can imagine it from the beginning in under a few seconds and even better in 1-2 seconds. It should be lightning fast, much faster than you’d see in the real world. It’s okay that it happens fast in your brain because it’s the entire point to crushing negative thoughts.
Step 5: Test it and live by it.
Once you find yourself with a negative thought, for example, “I can’t cook,” play out the scene in your head. Remember speed is the name of the game here. Once you play out that scene, feel yourself at the end feeling the love that people have for your food. Hear them saying they love what you’ve cooked, and how they’re begging for a second, and third service.
The last part is important because you need to start building that feeling of positive thinking. It will take a few tries, but after time you will become a master of your own thoughts. It’s a powerful thing when you build mental images and scenes that will change the negative thought patterns that come into your mind.
Once you start to build this into a habit, you will soon come to build out mental scenes without even thinking about it. It’s awesome, if I must say.
You will really start to feel the love within yourself and even better see the love around you start to bloom. Share this simple 5-step mental process with people when you see them in a negative state. No one should live a life of negativity because our lives are just too short and every second matters.
Put negativity in its place and crush it with your imagination and I bet you will start to become that better cook you’ve always wanted to become. Positive thinking will bring into your life the right moments, the right people, and the right timing.
Scott “I am the master of my own thoughts” Hurtado