Hope, Faith, Fear, Mindset, and Success
Life is meant to be lived to the fullest, but a lot of us live lives that are half-lived. What I mean by half-lived is that we often live lives that are not fulfilling, inspiring, and meaningful. A lot of us wake up and do things that we’re not excited about, like trading our time for money, AKA “working for others.”
I’ve met and worked with a lot of people throughout my life; some are living crazy meaningful lives while others are just trying to exist altogether. Why is it that some seem to have the greatest lives while others struggle to reach any of their dreams and goals?
I am here to answer those questions and bring new light to how you can start living a more fulfilled (and full) life. 🙂
The Jewel of Life
Not very many people would admit (or know) they’re living an unfulfilled life. How can you tell if you’re not on the right path? I think it comes down to being in command of your life and the feeling of joy in the things you do at anytime of the day. Yes, there are a lot of us that have joy, meaningful tasks, and satisfaction throughout our week, but it’s not what fills our entire day. Most people beg for the weekend to come, to clock out, to finally get some sleep; these are all the telltale signs of not being in command of your life.
No one wants to live a life of boredom, dissatisfaction, or stress day after day, where they’re out of control. Change is scary when you have a routine in place. However, change should feel like a release when you stack it up against boredom, dissatisfaction, stress, and the ultimate state of mind, which is feeling trapped. When we settle for what we have, we let opportunity pass us by and we live a life that’s only half the life we deserve to live.
The jewel of life is to exert change because if you never change, you will never be able to live to your fullest. Let go of the good so that the great can take its place; this all starts with change. Embrace it.
The Hope Mindset
We’ve all heard it before, the person “hoping” to land that new job, date, promotion, or whatever else. There are a million things out there to “hope” for. Your health, relationships, friends, learning, and you get the idea. The thing about hope is that it’s a killer of dreams and goals.
Hope is a lie; let me explain why.
Hope works much in the same way as drugs do. “Hope” may give you a temporary high that makes you feel unstoppable, but then after it wears off, reality strikes and you have to face the consequences. Having “hope” in anything is a killer (a slow killer) to all dreams and goals when compared to having faith. Now when I talk about “faith” I am not talking about religion or going to church (which I think is just silly). I do love me some God, but I am not for organized religion. That’s a whole other blog post though.
As you live out your life, you must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words about what your dreams and goals consist of, but to live by them. If you want to make a million a year, then you can’t do that by hanging out with the wrong people. You also can’t make a million a year doing the same old thing. Having faith in what you want to achieve does require you to believe, but it also requires you to live by it.
Take someone that wants to stop smoking, for example. Yes, they might talk about not smoking anymore and they have faith in themselves that they will stop. However, the real factor that makes them stop smoking altogether is them making the change. They must live by their words.
There’s a formula to life and being able to create a life you love. The formula consists of faith, fear, and mindset. Faith is the foundational building block that allows, empowers, and compels you to take risk and to move forward with your dreams. Fear is the negative part of the formula that tries to sabotage you from reaching your dreams. And lastly, your mindset is the result of you succeeding or ultimately failing at what you want.
Faith is one thing, but without action and the right mindset, faith isn’t going to get you all the way there.
The Faith Mindset
When I talk about faith, I am talking about this: complete trust or confidence in someone or something. Faith, to say the least, is DAMN POWERFUL. I am getting ahead of myself so let’s take a step back for a moment.
I believe that faith (with continuous effort towards your dreams and goals) has everything to do with personal development. Everything. If you look at hope, a lot of us just make a wish more or less to “hope” that this or that will happen for us. The universe doesn’t work that way. You have to lead the way for opportunity to happen for you.Life does not happen to you, it happens for you! Click To Tweet
So many of us choose what we want based out of fear disguised as practicality. Don’t risk not being seen by the world because of the thought of failure. Let your failure be the light that shines no matter how scary failure may be. I believe that in order to succeed at anything in life, you must first fail. Failing at something is only a means to teach us, to help us grow, and to help us achieve what we deserve.
The Path of Fear
In my life I assume that if I want anything, I must fail first. It doesn’t scare me, it excites me. 😀 Failure is only a step closer to what I deserve. If I was to stack up all my failures in not only my business, but life in general, then it would seem like I am a loser. However, if you look really close you will see that I grew, learned, and became wiser from each failure I endured. When you’re in the middle of failing it’s never fun, but when you look back, you will be able to connect the dots that made you who you are today.
You can’t connect the dots looking forward, you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something: your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. Because believing that the dots will connect down the road will give you the confidence to follow your heart, even when it leads you off the well-worn path. —Steve Jobs
Don’t let the fear of failure stop you from your higher purpose. When I grew up, I was never told to fail on purpose in school. I can tell you though that if you want to get anywhere in life, you must be willing to fail.
Create Your Story
I always love a deep story of struggle, loss, and failure. I like a deep story because a story without struggle, loss, and failure isn’t a story.
I lived out of my car before I became successful, went bankrupt, lost everything (more than once) and failed countless times. Best part is that I didn’t end up here by chance; I had faith, and the relentless drive to keep trying regardless of how many steps stood before me. When I look back, I failed again, again, and again, but without that happening to me I wouldn’t have the thick skin I have. I can honestly say I would go through it all over again because I don’t have to guess what’s right anymore for my life. I live the life I love because I had enough guts to fail to get here.
When you fail, it might seem like the world is ending, like you’re not going to survive. All I can say is when you do get through it (and you will), look back on those times and you will see the dots start to connect. You will start to see your story come to life with color. The only thing that really matters at the end of your life is what you did to live. Did you risk it all and lose it all to try it again? Did you fail 1000 times and finally reach the top? Those are the stories worth listening to. Those are the stories that live on forever.
The effect you have on others is the most powerful currency there is in this world.
We all will die one day. Make this life you have so damn unbelievable because not only is life meant to be lived that way, it also creates a story worth telling to the world. It’s not about the end result of getting to the top, it’s about the journey you took to get there. Most want to make more money, be more fit, fall in love, and that’s nice once you get there. However, like I said, it’s the journey that makes it all worth it in the end.
Don’t settle for average in your life because you will learn a very hard lesson and that lesson is: You can fail in life doing something you don’t love so why not fail at doing something you truly love. Even if you fail (and you will) at least you could say you tried; that’s more than what most people can say. There are only two real failures that exist in this world. First is not trying at all, which is failure by default. The second real failure is not getting up after each failure you experience. You see, when you stop trying is when you truly fail. The only real failure in life is when you no longer keep trying.
The majority of humanity seems to get lost in the abyss of unawareness. Don’t be one of those people who are unaware that failing is part of you reaching success. You will fail (more than once), but it will only make your story that much more colorful in the end once you get to where you’re going.
The struggle in anything is to be expected and you should honor it because it’s what makes your life story.
Scott “honor the struggle” Hurtado